by Rachael Flick | Apr 26, 2020 | Grief, Life After Loss, Pandemic
Grief is: missing your pandemic partner. Your trauma buddy. The person you process your decisions with. . . . Being in a global crisis has put all of us in uncharted territory. There’s no handbook for handling quarantine and all the physical and emotional fallout from...
by Rachael Flick | Mar 10, 2020 | Grief, Life After Loss
Grief is: pasting on a smile. For a girl with a bad case of RBF, grief did nothing to help my smile. Honestly, it’s ok not to smile. (Lord help those JW missionaries who paid a visit after Micah’s death. My scowl was probably frightening. I didn’t even attempt to be...
by Rachael Flick | Dec 7, 2019 | Grief, Vacation
Grief is: a change of plans. This phrase is so understated it’s shocking. And it’s powerful. 13 years ago I planned to spend the rest of my life with Micah. Change of plans. 10 years ago I planned to have children and raise them with my husband. Change of...
by Rachael Flick | Sep 29, 2019 | Grief, Life After Loss
Grief is: sneaky. Last night the twins and I were cleaning up after dinner. Lots of shuffling and wiping and replacing of bits. And I heard the tinkle of metal. And without missing a heartbeat, my mind told me they were Micah’s keys as he was coming home through...
by Rachael Flick | Aug 20, 2019 | Grief, Life After Loss
Grief is: buying a birthday cake for your dead husband’s birthday and crying quietly through the aisles of Costco. We do a lot of “official” type things for Micah because of his #Lodd. We go to ceremonies and lay wreaths and listen to bagpipes. We do...
by Rachael Flick | Dec 1, 2018 | Grief, Life After Loss
Grief is: making a decision to choose joy. (Some days your body chooses for you, and it’s rarely joy- like panic attacks. 💩 happens 🤷♀️) But some days you get to choose whether to stay in bed or whether to fight the powerful compulsion of pain. The compulsion...